Helpful Resources for Cancer Fighters

We fight cancer TOGETHER 

What helped me fight FATIGUE

Fatigue is the most common symptom of chemo therapy. It is also cumulative after each chemo cycle. To fight fatigue, I tried to stay hydrated.  I never drank so much water in my life…Getting in regular exercise activity, walks and being in fresh air seemed to help as well.  I tried to plan my days with resting periods.  By 2pm each day I felt that I could no longer be productive, so that was usually the time I took a mental break, sit on my back patio and tried to go on my ecliptical or short walk weather permitting. My doctor advised me to keep moving and allowed me to take B-12 vitamins (you will need to ask your doctor before taking any vitamins as it may interfer with your other medications). Diet high in protein, fish and lots of vegetables was something else I treated as a part of my treatment plan. 

What helped me fight NAUSEA

I found nausea to be very frustrating…It would not go away as much as I tried to control. I was prescribed steroids to treat vomiting but nausea was always with me. Chemo causes stomach irritation and uncomfortable feeling in my stomach and I was no longer able to enjoy certain foods. I fell in love with fresh ginger, lemon, cough drops, mint gum…I always had something in my mouth including pretzels and crackers which temporarily subsided the taste of nausea. I tried washing my mouth with Biotene but I never got used to slimy texture Biotene left in my mouth but it helped my mouth sores and gums. Although I was not hungry, I tried eating smaller portions 5-6 times a day which seemed to help control neausea while I was chewing on something.

What to bring to CHEMO TREATMENTS

First of all, wear something comfortable.  I always had my workout clothes and a sweater.  Even in the middle of summer, I was always cold in the air conditioned room, plus getting cold infusions made my body temperature drop.  I was always cold. The cancer clinic had warm blankets but I still brought my own blanket and socks. Treatments take several hours, so bringing something to do helped me pass the time (magazine, book, craft, puzzle, coloring, etc.).  I usually brought something to read and even sometimes fell asleep but that beeping sound once the infusion is done always would bring me back to the reality. And don’t forget about the water bottle. You will need to drink so much water. Sometimes, I opted for warm tea to keep me not just hydrated but also warm. 

Take self-care CLASS/SERVICE if available for you

The cancer clinic where I received my care, offered various classes and services for cancer patients and their families.  First, my husband and I attended chemo orientation which went over the expectations of treatments, what to watch for, how to deal with chemo side effects, etc.  We found it very informative and answered many questions that we were researching online. The clinic also offered financial counseling, physical therapy, dietician, various wellness programs.  We were glad to hear that the help was there if we needed it, and I even took advantage of it after I was done with my treatment and met other ladies going through similar experience.  Connecting to others is always a rewarding experience, sharing our perseverance stories, learning something new and reinforcing survivorship. 

Consider GENETIC testing

My cancer came out of nowhere – no family history, healthy and young, getting BC in my 30’s something hard to explain unless I have a genetic mutation explaining this nightmare. Only 15-20% of population get BC before 40 years old which is still fairly uncommon.  And only 4-6% of population have a generic mutation explaining BC in young women, so my doctor recommended me to have genetic consultation to understand if genes played a part in my diagnosis and if potentially I have any other cancer risks.  My test results came back negative.  The test results did not explain the reason why cancer happened to me but I do not regret having the testing and learning about any other potential health risks. 

Why I chose to participate in CLINICAL TRIALS

Clinical trials help improve the quality of care now and in the future.  I believe and support the new developments in finding better treatment and a cure for cancer, so being part of these medical endevours is very important.  I had many different options to participate in various trials but some scared me due to additional and unexpected side effects, especially for being a young mom with busy schedule and a full time job. The study review and expectation of clinical trials can be very long and somewhat unknown what you are signing up for, so I picked the ones that I could understand, physically handle and fit into my schedule. Some require time commitment but offer higher standards of care and monitoring. It’s voluntary and you also can leave the trial any time if it becomes too much.  My ask is that you at least consider to participate in supporting research to prevent and cure breast cancer for future generations.

HATS vs WIGS

Losing hair is devastating.  My hair started coming out in lumps after the 2nd round of chemo. As a woman having long hair, this was very hard to accept…I admired the bravery of other women on social media showing their bold heads, but I could not bring myself to that. My wonderful friends took me to a local wig salon. We made it a fun activity, trying various wigs and hats having a good time.  I also learned about more natural looks such as monofilament that are more expensive but I also tried inexpensive kind to see the difference.  There are so many options now.  I also found a few hats online, on Etsy and bought a few different color and length wigs to make the hair loss experience a little fun. I tested a few different wig styles and hats to see which ones I liked the most.  I tried Noriko and Rene of Paris brands.  When buying it online, it is hard to tell how it will look like in reality.  I actually found that standard wigs looked too big on me and needed to find a small size.  Having long hair all my life, I surprisingly liked having short hair wigs.  However, I didn’t find wearing wigs too comfortable.  It was itchy and my scalp was too sensitive but on special occasions, it allowed me to look my usual self.  Soft cotton hats were ideal for my scalp.  It kept my head warm and I even slept with a hat on at night.  

Recommendations for Caregivers

Become a PR person

Everyone who cares will want to know how treatments are going. Although I was so humbled and glad to hear everyone caring about my well being, it became overwhleming to relay the same message multiple times. I was living and talking cancer all day.  I became tired and irritated re-telling my doctor appointments and treatment plan.  My husband quickly took charge of becoming my PR person of creating a private group chat on social media to keep our family, friends, neighbors and co-workers upraised of any new developments, doctor visits, my side effects and what we needed as a family.  It all worked out so well, it was less stressful and one less thing to worry about.  Everyone was so understanding that I didn’t always feel like talking and needed some quiet time. The time and the people I wanted to talk to where up to me. If you are a partner or someone who is closely involved in day to day with the person who has cancer, you are that perfect candidate to help with the communication. If you feel this is still a big undertaking for someone, you can also use CaringBridge.org site to stay connected with your family and friends  sharing your health journey.  

Accompany every doctor appointment

I am so blessed to have the most loving and patient husband.  Despite his phobia for blood and doctors, he drove me to every appointment, attended every treatment, listened to healthcare professionals and had very smart follow up questions to ask.  He took notes for me and helped me to remember the doctor conversations afterwards. He helped research and stayed on top of my treatment plan and medication. He is my angel here on earth. Every cancer patient needs that one person who they feel comfortable with to accompany them to the doctor appointments.  There are so many things you have to remember and understand which at first can be very confusing.  You also don’t want to be a passive patient who does what the doctor tells them to do.  Keep in mind, that our bodies are different, doctors are also human and they get sick too.  It is extremely important to understand and be part of your treatment decisions, and that person by your side can help you with that. 

Do you know anyone who had similar experience?

I didn’t know that many people at the time who had been through BC but hearing first hand what to expect eased my fears. If you know someone who dealt with cancer before even if it is a friend of your friend’s, reach out and arrange an introduction.  This is what one of my friend’s did for me. My friend arranged a meeting at her house being that middle person. Hearing someone else’s experience who actually was going through exact same journey, gave me more courage and comfort that I can endure it too.  I was so fortunate to have a couple of wonderful ladies that helped me navigate through the confusion and told me how to cope with the realities of BC.

Don't ask how you can help, just do it!

I’m so grateful for the people I have in my life, even total strangers who I met during my cancer journey, especially for their generosity.  Everyone offered their help, asked me what they can do and how they can help.  I honestly didn’t know how to answer, didn’t know what I even needed at the time, and I also felt guilty admitting I needed something.  I was more concerned about my kids that they were fed, someone was watching them or picking them up from daycare when I was at the cancer clinic, etc. It was so nice when my friends and family took turns to bring us homemade dinner several times a week. With the conveniences of home delivery, this part just takes some coordination but it is greatly appreciated. My friends also came to clean my house before we hired a cleaning lady but cleaning services is something that can be so practical for a family. Anyone who has kids, helping them babysit, taking them to a park or their after school activities help parents have a quiet moment and for kids keep the same routine. Not to mention, I was worried about my husband doing everything including my care. Last but not least, I appreciated the walks with my friends.  I knew that excericising is very important to help me fight fatigue but often, I didn’t feel motivated going on walks on my own, so I didn’t have an excuse when my friends wanted to walk around the neighborhood with me or take me to a local park. Chatting, laughing, catching up on life, taking my mind of my aches and fears, and enjoying the nature always made me feel great afterwards. 

Learn BC terminology

The doctors use many acronyms and medical terminology when discussing my illness.  Understanding the terminology and knowing what important questions to ask, gave me the feeling of control and empowerment to influence my treatment plan decisions instead of being a passive patient. My husband and my brother were very involved in my care from the get go.  We researched and learned everything together.  Their understanding of the disease and what to expect, helped us be more prepared as a family, plan ahead, ask doctors the right questions or find answers to the questions we had along the way.  Knowing that both close men in my life understood the disease, allowed me to leave them in charge when I was too tired to think.

Things you can buy

Here are a few of my favorite things I received as gifts that were very applicable during my cancer journey:

  • Headware (hats, scarfs, wigs).
  • Etsy gift care – cotton hats I bought on Etsy were one of my favorites.
  • Water bottle – it is very important to drink lots of water during chemo.  Adding fresh ginger or fruit helped fight nausea.
  • Blanket and socks – I was always so cold during the chemo treatments.
  • Mastectomy/surgery pillow – the only thing that helped me sleep better or wear a seatbelt in the car after my surgery.
  • Big bag to carry blanket and water bottle when going to treatments.
  • Magazine, books, Audible, Barnes&Noble gift card, activity book, coloring book – chemo treatment can take several hours and doing an activity helps to pass the time by.
  • Ginger candy, lemon tea, cough drops helped me fight nausea
  • Skin care products such as hydrating lotion, lip balm, sunscreen and facial masks.  Try to find something organic.  My favorites are coconut, shea butter or lavendar lotions from Whole Foods.  Chemo and endoctrine therapy made my skin very dry.
  • Notebook or journal, personal stationery.  I kept notes from my appointments, notes from researching the disease, my symptoms, and my cancer journey. It helped to keep everything in one place and remember the questions I wanted to ask my care team. I received flowers, gift cards, food, so acknowledging my appreciation and writing a “thank you” card was a must.
Celebrate milestones

Cancer journey can be a long one.  Having to go through chemo, hair loss and re-growth, radiation, multiple surgeries, therapies, etc. is a long process.  Celebrating each milestone along the way commemorates how far you’ve come, how much you had to endure, that you fought, perservered and survived.  Celebrating with your favorite ice cream or dessert, having a small group of friends for a cookout if you feel well enough for it, can energize you, excite you about the future that this horrible disease is coming to an end, that you will be healthy again.  My husband and I continued to go on dinner dates.  It was important for me to dress up, put make up on and still feel attractive despite my hair and weight loss. My friends and family surprised me with balloons and flowers at my last radiation treatment and watched me get emotional while I rang the bell to mark the end of my radiation. We planned local camping trips and vacation to the beach around each phase of my cancer journey to celebrate these stepping stones in the fight against cancer.

Before it all started – waiting on my medical oncologist to go over the biopsy results. I dind’t know at the time that this will be almost 2yr journey.
Getting blood work done before each round of chemo is standard to ensure my body can handle it. I cut my hair really short to minimize the hair loss shock but after 2nd round of A/C, it all came out at once in large clumps which was a very devestating experience.
My 4th A/C (“red devil”) injection before I switched to Taxol infusions next. Surprisingly, I experienced more side affects with Taxol than A/C, even ending up in ER. 
My last chemo – I’m so tired but relieved. I still have a long journey ahead (surgery and radiation) but happy to be done with the 1st phase towards becoming cancer free. 

Cancer Resources

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How to Stay Positive

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Helpful Things for Cancer Patient

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